Decide Ahead of Time

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Hey everybody. Welcome back. Thank you for joining me today.

So this is episode 39 and it is on deciding ahead of time. And what I wanted to talk to you about today was making decisions ahead of time about how you want to think and how you want to feel about certain situations, certain events, certain discussions. It can be vacations, it, it can be whatever you want, but deciding ahead of time, exactly what you want to think and how you want to feel, and how you want your experience to be about it ahead of time.

Now, I picked this idea up somewhere, but I can't remember exactly where, but I first really connected with it back in May. And I was planning my trip to Italy. I was going to Rome, and then I was going for five days to Tuscany, and I had this beautiful picture in my mind of walking around Rome and lying by the pool in Tuscany. And it was always sunny. It was, it was beautiful weather. It was perfect weather, to tell you the truth, which I guess is pretty common when you're planning a vacation, right? You want the sun, you want the nice weather.

So here I am having visions of this beautiful sunny weather in Rome and in Tuscany, and I really wasn't paying attention to the current weather there. And it was only sort of maybe about 10 days before my trip that somebody pointed out to me that it had been raining for like two or three weeks in Italy and like the forecast was for more rain. And I was like, oh. And so that was really It was sort of like a bucket of cold water, to be honest. I was sort of like, oh, I hadn't thought about that. Hadn't planned on that. And for a couple of days I continued to watch the forecast and it just kept raining and raining and raining. And the forecast was for rain, rain, rain. And it was looking like it would be sunny the like, literally the last day I had in the country like as I was flying back. I was disappointed and honestly, I think I did think about canceling it. Because I had this, outdoor concert for Bruce Springsteen. I hadn't had a break in a few months since really a, a while, several months actually. And I wanted a break. I wanted the peace and quiet. I wanted to be able to sit outside and enjoy. And I thought if it cannot be like that, then there's no point in going and then, I decided that no matter what, my vacation in Italy was going to be great. It was going to be a great vacation, and it didn't matter what the weather was going to be, I was just going to enjoy it. And I told myself that I, I could just decide that that was the best vacation I've had in a long time, and I kept repeating that to myself and I kept telling myself that. When I actually got to Italy, I was ready to just enjoy myself no matter what.

Luckily, we did experience some rain, but not quite to the extent that. sort of had been experienced in the last few weeks. I was able to go to the concert even though it was completely muddy and a mess, but it didn't rain and it was pouring when I arrived in Tuscany, it sort of had quite a bit of rain in the afternoons, but I was able to spend usually a couple of hours in the morning by the pool, so it worked out. And, probably I was quite lucky in that regard, but it still wasn't as ideal as I had first imagined. But it was a great vacation for sure, and it was relaxing and I just decided that it was great and it worked I've also done that now for my upcoming trip home. And this is something, it's a little bit different because I enjoy going home, but it's not quite the relaxing vacation because I don't get home very often.

So I land up doing, banking and dentist and doctor, and haircuts and all the things. And then, there's, there are a lot of people that I want to see and spend time with and things I wanna do and food I want to eat. it's quite busy. it's not quite relaxing. And I have in the past been very frustrated by that because I can't reconcile the fact that it's supposed to be a summer vacation, but it's never a lie by the pool or lie by the lake sort of relaxing. it's different.

And again, I've done the work on that for this upcoming trip that. It is a summer vacation, and it's going to be amazing. It's going to be great fun, and I'm going to enjoy myself immensely and it'll be the best trip home. And I really am in that frame of mind. I really do feel like I have really let go of all of the frustration that I used to experience in past years.

And so I wanted to invite you to think about this for yourself for whatever events or discussions or trips you, you may have upcoming.

I was actually speaking about this with a client last night and she has an upcoming trip. Which is fine. But she will be visiting a family member and we did some planning around what that visit will look like, and that included everything from, what day she wanted to visit, the amount of time. That she wanted to visit. She wanted to go. She wanted to spend an hour and a half with this person. She was clear that that was enough. She was clear that she didn't have to explain it or justify it, and we also did some work around how she wanted to feel after the visit and what she would need to be thinking in order to create that feeling. And I also explained to her that that is accessible to her now.

You can think that thought now and create that feeling.

You can think that thought all the way up until that meeting or that visit, and then you can think that thought during it and then after it and create that feeling for yourself.

And of course I've said this many times, you know what you focus on, you will create more of. it's really a shift in your mindset to focus on what you want to create and being very deliberate in how you're thinking because what you think will create your feeling. Then how you're feeling will drive, how you're showing up what you're doing, and ultimately that creates the result that you will have experienced. It will create the result that you experience. if you have something coming up, That perhaps you are a little bit stressed about, you are a little unsure about, you're a little worried about how it's going to go, know that right now, you can decide how you want it to go, what you want to think about it, and how you want feel about it.

Decide that now, work on, decide that now. Identify how you want to feel at the end of whatever it is. Figure out what thought you need to be thinking that creates that feeling in you and start practicing it now.

Let me know how it goes.

If you're interested in trying coaching yourself, this is where we do this mindset work. This is where we do that thought work that helps you to create the results that you want in your life.

I offer a free, private one hour coaching session for you to try coaching yourself and you can learn more about what it would look like to work with me and the results that you can expect to achieve. It's powerful stuff. I promise you. The change you want is possible.

Working with a coach helps you to achieve that change. I will include the link to my calendar and the show notes.

The appointments are a little light coming up because as I said, I am going to be home for a few weeks and on vacation, so there are a few appointments available, but I will be adding more once we get into August and September.

So as we head into the, the last half of the year, this is a great time to start looking at what changes you wanna make.

Thanks for listening. I'll talk to you next week.

Take care. Bye-bye.

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